Children Need to Feel Loved

How to make young children feel special

I’m sure I’m not the only parent that ignore or pushes away their young children. It is such a common thing. Again I’m preaching to myself. This article took three days to write because I needed to practice what I wrote. Several times a day I hear ‘mom, please play with me’, and several times I turned her down because I’m working, socializing, resting, or taking care of the baby. She opened up one night that I didn’t love her because I never did anything with her. This was not so in my mind, I just took her to play centre, put on her favorite movie, made her cookies for snack, and brought her a treat. In her eyes, I couldn’t play with her and I’m too busy for her, I must not love her. I explained to her indeed I do love her, I make her meals, I take her places, I buy her things, etc. But I didn’t spend time with her. My daughter’s love language is many things but the one she desires is my time and company. As you will see the main idea is TOGETHER! I had let moments slip by, moment I can never repeat. My little girl will be one day on her own and I will no longer have her in my household.  Sometimes you need to be creative in getting one on one time. Allow a little extra time at bedtime to read, pray, and quietly talk. Take your child with you on an errand or shopping. Bath time, mealtime, doing housework together (especially when they are in the helpful age), etc. I only have a short time with my girls, what would they remember? Will they remember the time I spent hours cleaning the kitchen spotless or the times I made being together fun and exciting?

  • Talk to them while you are working together
  • Tell stories while you are working together
  • Take five minutes in between jobs to play together
  • Watch short videos on common interest together…my daughter and I watch cooking and crafts.
  • Make your child’s favorite meal together
  • Do crafts together
  • Greet with a smile, hug, and love often throughout the day
  • Sing together
  • Play games together
  • Cook together
  • Color together
  • Skip together
  • Ask questions to open conversations together
  • Do hair and nails together
  • Plan surprises together
  • Clean together
  • Fold laundry together
  • Study stars together
  • Go for walks together
  • Read together

Mexican Rice Recipe 

This lovely Mexican rice dinner was made for my family and it was enough for six people and cost less than $10 (which is awesome in New Zealand). It took me twenty mins to make. I made the beans the night before or canned red kidney beans can be used.

Recipe Instructions:

  • Brown 400 grams of ground beef, one onion, 1 tbs of garlic, and 1 orange cappicums.
  • Add 2 cans or 2 1/2 cups of beans, can of diced tomato, 1 1/2 cup of left over brown rice, two cans of water, 1 cup of corn, salt, pepper, 1 tbs of cumin, and 1 tbs of multipurpose spice.
  • Let it simmer for 10 mins.
  • Serve with cheese quesadilla and sour cream. Add hot sauce to your taste.

Worry or Not to Worry

As I woke this morning, I went through my morning routine, thoughtless of anything but what I needed to last till the next paycheck. I first went to the restroom, my thoughts were, I wonder if I have enough toilet paper for the rest of the month. As I went into the kitchen to make breakfast, I thought what meals will I need to make with the supplies I have, without going to the store. As I got dressed, I wondered if the laundry soap was going to last and if we were going to have enough sunny days to hang out the laundry. These are real worries I had. I haven’t been awake for an hour yet. I’m the type of person to spend hours trying to figure out how things can be fixed, but only a few minutes of prayers. I know there are very few people who never had to worry about provision. I know it is a very human nature and a Mother’s nature to worry. We also know that the Bible has a ton of verses on the topic…but does that stops us from worrying.

I struggle in this area. I’m not writing this because I’m trying to be spiritual and I’m preaching to myself. These are my real worries, this is a moment by moment struggle for me. I worry about Elizabeth’s safety, Suzanne’s feeds and health, Wesley’s driving, etc… I get so worried my voice becomes high pitched, break into tears, talk and think of nothing else, even get a headache, I become depressed. It is no longer just a thought of worry but now it is a physical worry. When I’m physically sick of worry it effects my spiritual thoughts. I stop praising God for the things He had previously provided. I stop thanking God for the things He currently provides. I lose hope in His promised provisions. My faith and trust in the God that sent His Son to be my Savior, has lowered.

Now let me tell you how I get beyond worry. First, I pray that God would not only take my worries away but give me peace in trusting Him. I’m reminded of memory verses and start reading scriptures on God’s providing. Second, I thank the Lord for his present provisions. This is a moment of moment gratitude. I thanked the Lord that Suzanna’s meals were already provided! That it was sunny this morning so I could hang out laundry and that I didn’t need to take them to be dried. I thanked Him for providing us a warm comfortable apartment. I try to think of as many things as possible to thank Him for. I start praising Him for things he had previously provided. I praise God for the safety He allowed us to have in our travels, even to the shops. I praise Him for providing us with support from churches each month. I praise God for the health and safety He has given us over the last years. Thirdly, after all this I can not help but start singing…poor neighbors…lol.

“Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.” – Philippians 4:6

G’day from Down Under

My name is Erin.  I’m the mother of two beautiful girls, Elizabeth Rose and Suzanna Grace.  I grew up in Indiana, Oklahoma, and Michigan.  I was led to the Lord as my personal Saviour when I was 4 years old at a Five-Day Bible Club led my momma (Sue Gimlich).

I want to in this first blog post tell you that without Christ, I can do nothing.  But with Christ all things are possible.  I live in New Zealand right now with my daughters and husband, Wesley.  We’ve lived in America, visited Canada and Mexico, and lived in Australia.  I will explain more in detail later, but right now I’m just introducing Momma Bear Ideas to the forefront.

I plan to continue this blog soon…but right now I must get back to taking care of the day-to-day operations of my household.

Yours Truly,

Erin Pittman